IM A V….. WOULD YOU BE PATIENT?

Once again I give all thanks and glory to The Almighty God. Before I start this article I’ll like to sincerely apologize to anyone this article might offend. I mean no disrespect to those who are not Virgins! My message is mainly for Guys… Asking them to simply be patient and understanding. Thanks and God Bless.

Lauren said: I don’t get why Dave is so pushy! I’ve told him a thousand and one times that the conversation makes me uncomfortable! I’m not ready to lose my virginity so why wouldn’t he be patient?

Bimpe said: Losing my virginity is so scary…. I’ve heard it’s really painful, I don’t think I’m ready… I’m too nervous.

Kimberly said: I’m sick and tired of Tom forcing me to have sex with him when we’re making out. I’m just not ready.. I’ve told him I want us to take things slow and if things don’t change I might have to end it…

Lola said: Sex is really not my thing I’d rather wait till I meet the right guy or that special person.

Shanae said:  Paul is selfish…. That’s all I can say… he doesn’t respect my feeling and opinions. I want to do this when we’re both ready!

Nife said: I believe sex is something sacred! I’d rather wait till I’m married. It’s not something you do with just any guy. Even if he’s your boyfriend.

I ASK:

Guys would you be patient?

Are you ready to be understanding when you’re girlfriend says she’s not ready?

Are you ready to take things slow and move at the pace she wants?

Are you ready to stay in a “no-sex” relationship and not cheat?

Are you ready to practice celibacy to make your relationship work?

      I had a friend of mine tweet something a while back and she said “Virgins in 2012, I salute you” My reply to that “Thanks for the salute! I'm sure they can’t say it is easy LOL”. It’s funny how guys think virgins don’t exist anymore. But I’m sorry to burst your bubble they do exist!. These days guys would judge you on their “VIRGIN---OR---NOT-A-VIRGIN” Scale based on how you dress. If you have piercings, wear contacts, have tattoos, and dress sexy DANG!!! You’re not a virgin. That is so wrong! Cuz a girl dresses sexy n stuff doesn’t mean she’s not a virgin. Don’t judge a book by its cover. There are so many girls out there who are still virgins and they are hoping and praying they’ll meet “that amazing guy” who’d be patient with them.

     The fact that a girl is still is a virgin does not mean she lacks the opportunity to lose “it” neither is it a reason for you to insult her. Most people will say “ah you’re still a virgin! Ur dulling o!” or “you don’t know wassup”. Well if the girl decides to dull, let her be! Most importantly guys you need to be patient and understanding with your girlfriend if she’s a virgin, especially if she’s not ready. Don’t force or stress her on the issue. Most girls want “that moment” to be special and if that is ruined, the girl might end up living with the pain, hurt and regret all her life.

     It’s not nice to pressure your girlfriend if she decides to wait till she’s married. Learn to respect her decisions. Apparently I actually expect you guys to be happy if you have a girlfriend that is a virgin! At least you’ll be sure of 1 thing --------> she doesn’t sleep around LOL (I know some guys will disagree with this). If you’re going to “pop her cherry”, let it be a mutual agreement/ feeling. Something you’re both happy doing and MOST IMPORTANTLY, at the right TIME!! which is after Marriage. Not something she succumbed to cuz you’ve constantly bugged, stressed and forced her into it. It’s not fair! These days most guys put sex as a priority in their relationship. They say “I can’t date a virgin!” or “what am I supposed to do with a virgin” or “she’s a virgin I can’t deal”. What on earth happened to "Do Not Have Sex Before Marriage" sigh!. Please she’s a virgin doesn’t mean she’s not human. NEVER MAKE SEX A PRIORITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP! It might ruin something “special” you could have had with that person!

   In some cases, the guy might even be ashamed to tell his friends that his girlfriend is a virgin cuz they’ll mock him or laugh at him and say stuff like “Na u dull yourself” But really why should you care what your friends think? If you really love her you shouldn’t be bothered!  If anything, you should be proud of her! Don’t disregard her feelings and values cuz of what your friends think. Rather make her feel special and loved. Guys….. please, would you make an effort? Cuz the Ladies are asking: I’M A VIRGIN…… WOULD YOU BE PATIENT? If I were you I’d say yes ;) God Bless

HATERZZ GON’ HATE!! LOL

/Haterz gon’ hate/

/Keep your life straight/

/Make no mistake/

/They gon’ use u like bait/

/Never had a break from all the haterz in the game/

/But I ain’t worried… I’m already great/

 LOL!!!! I just formed these rap lines with my brother :) #FunnyStuff!!

      Haters… haters… and even more haters. You’re surrounded by them. They could be your relatives, neighbors, colleagues, acquaintances, even a close friend. They smile with you and play with you doesn’t mean they don’t exist. They’re always there lurking around waiting for something nasty to happen to you. More like inglorious bastards if you ask me. And their soo good at pretending it might be a lil’ hard to fish them out of the crowd. They’ll mess with things that are important to you and act innocent e.g. you have an extremely important contract to carry out and your friend goes to the board behind your back to talk about a “not-so-impressive-thing” you did a year back and next thing you’re asked to drop out then they’ll come ‘n’ sympathize with you like they had nothing to do with it *sigh*

      It isn’t everyone that smiles with you that is your friend neither are they happy when things are going well for you. “But I’m nice to everyone at work” You argue… That’s beside the point… You can’t please everybody. There will be people who will hate you for your beauty, principles, religion, class, wealth, fashion sense, your “swag” lol and there are those who will hate you for no just cause. If you think people don’t hate you please check again! But most importantly you need to learn to ignore them when they do nasty things to you.

     We live in a world full of hate, evil and greed. And it’s so sad the length people will go to make you unhappy for example, You introduce your friend to “that amazing guy” you just met. You talk about him every day n fill her in with gist of what you n “the amazing guy” did today ‘n’ stuff; then a few weeks later you n d guy start having problems… he ends things with a text saying “I can’t do this anymore I found someone else” And apparently that someone else is your “supposed best friend/ close friend” *sigh* You find out shortly that she had been seeing him all along behind your back… *tears*.

     People won’t always sincerely celebrate with you every time something good happens in your life; sometimes they come around to actually see what they can mess up. You need to be really observant for you to tell a true friend from a fake one. The sad part is sometimes other people see that “this person” isn’t good for you! But you’re too strong headed to listen you make up excuses like “we’ve been friends for too long” or “she’s my cousin now” or “He said he loves me” or “she promised she’ll never cheat”.  Point is this people don’t care about you. And they’ll mess you up slowly in the most painful way. Imagine a friend who poisons your tea and is patting your back or rubbing your tummy as you’re slowly dying in pain X_X.       

       Life could be harsh and miserable and it might feel worse when you don’t have friends but they say the devil you know is better than the one you don’t know. So you might look around you and you feel like you don’t have any friends but at least you know that they’re fake so why bother? 

     Be careful who you call your friend, who you trust, who you introduce to your family and most especially who you tell your secrets!! You might not believe it but the fact is not everyone loves you genuinely. People say haters are people who actually admire you but because they can’t be like you they hate you. Truth is they will always say thrash about you, some might block you on twitter, unfriend you on Facebook, or even tweet thrash to you that they can’t say to your face. Personally I don’t even have the energy to waste on them. Some will flirt with your girlfriend and come and form “Guy how far?” or “chairman!” LOL! If you hate me, don’t pretend! Don’t act cool and backbite or gossip about me (Dey your lane o!).

      My advice is this… Live your life like its golden, Have all the fun you want, be yourself, Dine at the best places, go for the events you wanna go for, Party like a rock star, dress how you want (decently please) and most of all Pay them no attention. But as e dey go…. Haterz gon’ hate!! LOL

#YOLO

Xoxo………….. Tiny :)

COMING SOON: IM A V….. WOULD YOU BE PATIENT?

WHEN WOMEN ACT LIKE GIRLS…

      As always, I give thanks to The Almighty God for blessing me with wisdom to write this article. All glory belongs to Him. This article is based on my opinion, if you think otherwise, its fine! :) We’re all entitled to our opinions. Also I’ll like to sincerely apologize to anyone this article might offend. God Bless

   Girls…. Girls…. Girls…. Women….. Women… Women….. Hnmmm

WHO IS A GIRL?

A girl is a female child (The Oxford English Dictionary 6^th Edition states that it can be a way of insulting an elderly lady when she acts immature e.g. “Sorry love, you’re still a girl” or “I don’t date girls”) Perhaps! He’s telling you you’re quite immature.

WHO IS A WOMAN?

An adult female human being.

I’m gonna emphasize on two words here “child” & “adult”. Now according to The Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary 6^th Edition; the world child and adult are defined as

CHILD /tʃaɪld /noun

    A young human being who is not yet an adult or mature.

ADULT /ˈædʌlt / noun, adjective

     A “fully grown” person who is legally responsible for their actions.

          WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A GIRL AND A WOMAN? The answer is simple… MATURITY. The level of maturity a lady has attained will determine if she still thinks like a girl or she thinks like a woman. Just the same way we have guys/ men still acting like boys, we also have women who still act like girls. And when it comes to the way we dress I think about 85% of us are guilty. It isn’t common to see women acting like kids/ girls and my reason is cuz at a tender age you see little girls already trying to use lip sticks, paint their nails or mess around with mummy’s make- up so they can look all grown up. It has been said so many times that girls mature faster than boys. This might be true but our way of dressing and looks will forever betray us. It’s also no argument that girls have more variety with clothes than guys do; but the problem is, some girls have no fashion sense or some do, but they have a problem with covering their bodies and dressing decent.

     Because you want to look sexy doesn’t mean you should leave your house naked. There are decent shorts above your knee that you can still rock and look nice in :) it doesn’t have to be directly below your bum (in other words you MUST NOT bend down). In some cases, we can vividly see your bum crack… (That’s just wrong on so many levels). Or is it the fact that some girls deliberately leave the house without their bras *tears* (PLEASE WE’RE NOT INTERESTED……*fill in the blank*……) You’re selling yourself short when you do things like this and you start to complain that the kinda guys that approach you look like junkies, touts, play boys etc. Well lemme burst your bubble its cuz you look like a stripper n that’s what they fancy! Today we have quite a number of ladies in Lagos walking around nearly naked all in the name of “I must look sexy”. And they complain that guys talk to them anyhow. In my opinion, you put yourself on the “cheap-seat”.

     You don’t have to stress your sexiness, it comes naturally to you as a woman :) when you start trying too hard, you send all the wrong signals! PLEASE LADIES, DRESS APPROPRIATELY!! There are decent ways to dress and still have a touch of “sexiness” :) God Bless

 

P.S I added a few pictures so it won't be to hard for you to imagine :)

                                                                                                                                             Xoxo......…Tiny

COMING SOON: HATERZZ GON’ HATE!! LOL