Once again I give all thanks and glory to The Almighty God. Before I start this article I’ll like to sincerely
apologize to anyone this article might offend. I mean no disrespect to those
who are not Virgins! My message is mainly for Guys… Asking them to simply be
patient and understanding.
Thanks and God Bless.
Lauren said: I
don’t get why Dave is so pushy! I’ve told him a thousand and one times that the
conversation makes me uncomfortable! I’m not ready to lose my virginity so why
wouldn’t he be patient?
Bimpe said:
Losing my virginity is so scary…. I’ve heard it’s really painful, I don’t think
I’m ready… I’m too nervous.
Kimberly said: I’m
sick and tired of Tom forcing me to have sex with him when we’re making out.
I’m just not ready.. I’ve told him I want us to take things slow and if things
don’t change I might have to end it…
Lola said: Sex is
really not my thing I’d rather wait till I meet the right guy or that special person.
Shanae said: Paul is selfish…. That’s all I can say… he
doesn’t respect my feeling and opinions. I want to do this when we’re both
ready!
Nife said: I
believe sex is something sacred! I’d rather wait till I’m married. It’s not
something you do with just any guy. Even if he’s your boyfriend.
I ASK:
Guys would you be
patient?
Are you ready to be
understanding when you’re girlfriend says she’s not ready?
Are you ready to take
things slow and move at the pace she wants?
Are you ready to stay
in a “no-sex” relationship and not cheat?
Are you ready to
practice celibacy to make your relationship work?
I had a friend of mine tweet
something a while back and she said “Virgins in 2012, I salute you” My reply to
that “Thanks for the salute! I'm sure they can’t say it is easy LOL”. It’s funny how guys
think virgins don’t exist anymore. But I’m sorry to burst your bubble they do
exist!.
These days guys would judge you on their “VIRGIN---OR---NOT-A-VIRGIN” Scale
based on how you dress. If you have piercings, wear contacts, have tattoos, and
dress sexy DANG!!! You’re not a virgin. That is so wrong! Cuz a girl dresses
sexy n stuff doesn’t mean she’s not a virgin. Don’t judge a book by its cover.
There are so many girls out there who are still virgins and they are hoping
and praying they’ll meet “that amazing guy” who’d be patient with them.
The fact that a
girl is still is a virgin does not mean she lacks the opportunity to lose “it”
neither is it a reason for you to insult her. Most people will say “ah you’re
still a virgin! Ur dulling o!” or “you don’t know wassup”. Well if the girl
decides to dull, let her be! Most importantly guys you need to be patient and
understanding with your girlfriend if she’s a virgin, especially if she’s not
ready. Don’t force or stress her on the issue. Most girls want “that moment” to
be special and if that is ruined, the girl might end up living with the pain,
hurt and regret all her life.
It’s not nice to
pressure your girlfriend if she decides to wait till she’s married. Learn to
respect her decisions. Apparently I actually expect you guys to be happy if you
have a girlfriend that is a virgin! At least you’ll be sure of 1 thing --------> she doesn’t sleep
around LOL (I know some guys will disagree with this). If you’re going to “pop
her cherry”, let it be a mutual agreement/ feeling. Something you’re both happy
doing and MOST IMPORTANTLY, at the right TIME!! which is after Marriage. Not something she succumbed to cuz you’ve constantly bugged, stressed
and forced her into it. It’s not fair! These days most guys put sex as a
priority in their relationship. They say “I can’t date a virgin!” or “what am I
supposed to do with a virgin” or “she’s a virgin I can’t deal”. What on earth happened to "Do Not Have Sex Before Marriage" sigh!. Please she’s a
virgin doesn’t mean she’s not human. NEVER MAKE SEX A PRIORITY IN YOUR
RELATIONSHIP! It might ruin something “special” you could have had with that
person!
In some cases, the
guy might even be ashamed to tell his friends that his girlfriend is a virgin
cuz they’ll mock him or laugh at him and say stuff like “Na u dull yourself”
But really why should you care what your friends think? If you really love her
you shouldn’t be bothered!
If anything, you should be proud of her! Don’t disregard her feelings and
values cuz of what your friends think. Rather make her feel special and loved.
Guys….. please, would you make an effort? Cuz the Ladies are asking: I’M A
VIRGIN…… WOULD YOU BE PATIENT? If I were you I’d say yes ;) God Bless